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Aslam u Alikum. I am seeking an advice on my situation that two months ago our only son passed away after that due differences my wife is currently living with his father. And she isn't willing to come back anymore and its been two months that we are living separately. In last to months we have talked but were not able resolve any differences. What will be the right thing to do? Should i wait for some time? Can we live separately for life?

اَلجَوَابْ بِاسْمِ مُلْہِمِ الصَّوَابْ

Losing a child is a heartbreaking tragedy. In such times, both parents go though deep mental stress, however it  often affects the mother more deeply and for a longer time. Islam teaches us to be patient (Sabr), stay calm, and be kind to one another during  such difficult times.

In a marriage,  it is required (Wajib) for the wife to stay with her husband residence and does not leave it without his permission, At the same time, it is the  husband’s duty to provide a proper residential facilities (sukna) and treat her with kindness (ḥusn-e-sulūk). Without a valid religious reason, it is not allowed (na ja’iz) for a wife to live away from her husband. Similarly, a husband is not allowed to treat her with uncaring attitude without paying her essential rights.

However, As this family has suffered a great loss, we suggest the following :

Patience and Wisdom: The husband should be patient (sabr) and handle this sensitive situation with wisdom (hikmah).

Family Support: As the holy Qur’an teaches, wise and religious people from both families should step in to help make peace (islah between the couple.

Healing time: If a short stay with her parents helps her recover emotionally and fnd mental peace, there is no harm in it. However, this must not lead to a total breakdown of the relationship (Qata talluq). During this period, the couple should stay in touch and meet occasionally to keep the bond alive.

Hopefully, Your family will have a good time and blessings of Allah in near future.

و في سورة النساء(4/35):

وإن خفتم شقاق بينهما فابعثوا حكما من أهله وحكما من أهلها إن يريدا إصلاحا يوفق الله بينهما إن الله كان عليما خبيرا.

وفي سورة البقرة(2/229):

الطلاق مرتان فإمساك بمعروف أو تسريح بإحسان ولا يحل لكم أن تأخذوا مما آتيتموهن شيئا إلا أن يخافا ألا يقيما حدود الله فإن خفتم ألا يقيما حدود الله فلا جناح عليهما فيما افتدت به تلك حدود الله فلا تعتدوها ومن يتعد حدود الله فأولئك هم الظالمون.

و في سورة البقرة (2/231):

واذا طلقتم النساء فبلغن أجلهن فأمسكوهن بمعروف أو سرحوهن بمعروفۚ ولا تمسكوهن ضرارا لتعتدواۚ ومن يفعل ذلك فقد ظلم نفسهۚ ولا تتخذوا آيات الله هزواۚ واذكروا نعمت الله عليكم وما أنزل عليكم من الكتاب والحكمة يعظكم بهۚ واتقوا الله واعلموا أن الله بكل شيء عليم.